Wednesday, June 3, 2009

DyVineDyalogue 1.5

Logic & Reason v. Emotion

First of all, I need to apologize to all you mofos. I been gone for d*mn near 2 weeks. These are my excuses… IT WAS MY BIRTHDAY and somewhere in the Bible, Koran, Torah or other holy book lies these words… THOU SHALT GET IT CRACKIN ON YOUR BDAY AND THE WEEK THAT FOLLOWS…. (If it’s not in your book, then it’s in one of the others, don’t worry about it…. Haha) So, I only did what the big man said… **Hallelujah, HeCominInAHonda**. ***Please don’t strike me down, Lord*** And secondly, I have been having some issues of my own that I had to tend to. Mofos getting ReCkLeSs w/the weather change and all, B. LMAO. Nah, that’s not my story, but I love how it’s legitimate.
This week, our DyVineDyalogue is brought to you by a very recent experience…. **Isis, you may be able to remember parts of this**… And to the other side of this story, I apologize… I don’t want to make you seem like a villain…. This is all about Logic & Reason… versus… Emotions.

Men need logic. In fact, at times, they are much more logical than women. I will admit it. However, when they choose to try to defy logic, this is generally when they get caught up or are just plain lying. For example, he’s tryin to explain to you how some female’s lipstick print got on his back (on his skin, mind you) underneath his shirt when they were dancing cuz she had grabbed his neck and he pulled away but she had grabbed his…. (Do I really need to continue??) You get my point. Men need logic. If its not a A + B = C type thing... they will probably be cluless…

Women, however, bank on emotion. Ask a girl how her day went and she’s likely to start some part of her dissertation with “I feel” “I felt” or the like. Enuf said. I’m a woman; I know this to be true. Can’t say it’s true for all, but for the most part…. I’m right. Lol. *don’t ya just hate me?* That said, women defy logic on the regular. We will throw logic out the window to win a fight, prove a point or any other reason. But don’t get me wrong…. We understand logic… Our ability to use it or not, is what drives men mad… (insert evil laugh) Mad, I tell ya!

When the two combine… you’re in for a really good time.

Here's what happened… It’s my birthday, one of the few things I celebrate cuz I know it isn’t made up by some card company. So, I want to feel like a princess… I want you to do EVERYTHING I say, no questions asked! I’m on the phone calling a friend and they don’t answer and I hand you the phone and say keep calling… you’re supposed to oblige and dial away no matter how many times you hear ”Please enjoy this music while your party is reached….” However, this didn’t happen. He asks, “Why do you want me to keep calling her?” and I say, “Nevermind, I’ll do it myself” (Please note: I have become EXTREMELY P/O’d). I snatch the phone and walk away, he tries to get the phone back and I burst in to tears. Pathetic situation, I know, but (whining) it was my birthday!

The logic in this for a man, none. Why? Because, obviously the person isn’t answering. So, why am I constantly calling? They’ll look at their phone and see they missed a call and hit you back. (Look around at all the guys nodding in agreement, smh). For women, or at least for me in this scenario….(whining) It’s my birthday, and I want my friends around me and I won’t be happy until they are, so keep calling them… they’ll see that it must be important and that they should answer…. And on top of that…. It’s my BURFDAY!!! I want to feel like a princess, dammit!!!!

See what I mean?? Logic and reason versus Emotion. It may not always make sense but we gotta learn to work it out. We, men and women, have been on this planet for quite a while. We gotta figure this out. So this week, I’m not giving the advice. Give me the advice mofos…. What would you have done? And why? (And please note, I am not always this dramatic. It was just my birthday, okay??? LOL)


QOTWk: Do the titles in a relationship really matter? Does it make a difference when you can say for sure that a person is your Boyfriend/Girlfriend versus just being that mysterious “boo”???

10 comments:

Isis said...

I don't think the issue was in him not calling as it was in his tact in deciding not to keep calling. As a female myself who sometimes finds myself in the emotional realm, words and tone of voice can have a profound impact on us. Now on to this question of the week let me think on that and Ill be back to comment later lol I have to choose my words wisely.

L-Bourgies said...

First off girl he shoulda been one re-dialing muthafucka. Period. It was ya birthday and every woman ins a princess on her birthday. :-)

Now on to this question of the week. Sad sad sad, but the title matters. And ladies we can bullshit all we want to but we know at the end of the day it's a good feeling to have somebody refer to you as their baby,wifey, boo, etc... it has less to do with the content of the relationship and more to do with the ego boost that comes with being "the chosen one".

Now, don't get me wrong, I do think it's possible to have very fulfilling relationships in which the labels aren't clear. However, no matter what anyone says, when it comes time to get serious, those titles MATTER. The title is what gives u license to cut the fuckin' fool in the event of another woman. And we all know that's important to our emotional asses. Besides the lack of a title always ends up being a successful way out of an argument.

Ex: "I don't even know why you trippin, it's not like we together!"

Those are words EVERY woman dreads.

So do titles matter? not until one person wants to take the relationship to another level. then they become a necessity.

DJ MoonDawg said...

huh...what's a relationship??? I that some new technological advancement? I guess it will remain a mystery for all time....

Epoch Hotep said...

I would say that the title does matter! That's it. Ladies remember if your not first your last lol jk.. Seriously though, I don't see what wrong with coming to an agreement that this other person is your significant other I think that its just another situation that brings problems into the relationship.. sometimes you try to make things so simple that you make them hard. Hey 1+2=3 so TITLE+You= relationship.. that is how i see it just know that if there isn't a title in the end you are asking for trouble basically. Ok let me stop because I can go all day!

Knard said...

Yes the title does matter because these situations are like contracts, it's not official until its signed of stamped. That title of girlfriend or boyfriend is the stamp.

Eric said...

things need to be known in the beginning so that there are no probs in the future true story

Deuce Showboat DST said...

The answer to this question depends on the two people that a specific relationship involves. If one or both of the individuals are insecure about their position then yes a title matters. That level of insecurity also depends on the individuals maturity levels...mature individuals can decipher between an exclusive and a non-exclusive relationship...therefore titles dont matter to the mature individual...Titles only matter to those who use them as a security blanket...those individuals who are secure with themselves, their relationships and do not feel threatened by surrounding temptations know that they have the upperhand already and that they "own" the title already...thus they do not need confirmation of "the title"...but I will say that lack of a title always gives the room for the dishonest to dip out and mess around bcuz they can always say "well its not like ur my girlfriend/boyfriend anyway"...That's my 2 cents...

Isis said...

You see I think the view of relationships has been skewed in society so some have no problem just dishing out a title. I myself am not in that category and view relationships as building blocks to marriage. Thus you will not be my boyfriend until your shit is in order. One needs to personally be in tact and be stable prior to entering a relationship. In instances where that stability hasn't been reached but the two of you still act as though you are together no title is fine as long as there is definition. I don't think the title matters if two individuals have an understanding. I say this because the title is nothing more than a defined understanding. For example if your my boyfriend then in that title it is understood what is tolerated and what's not. That being said if two parties decide to opt out of having the titles but still have rules and regulations in place, the title is not needed because definition has been given. So I just had this sidebar with a friend and this is what we decided. " If you sitdown and decide not to title yourselves than you have in fact inadvertently defined your situation. Because sooner or later in a situation the topic will emerge of what is this, if it hasn't been defined,and as soon as both parties decide to answer that question they are giving there situation definition. Thus it isn't the names that matter as much as the definition behind those names, definition that can be implied and explored without labeling it traditionally but in theory being synonymous with what a girlfriend and boyfriend is. However the above understanding only last for so long because usually it is in place for a reason.For example some fellas may say I wanna make sure I have job security and my own before I get into a relationship so I can give my girl 100%. Now when we start to talk about two individuals who are on task and stable and doing everything like a girlfriend and boyfriend, yes the title is needed put the stamp on it because there is no plausible reason not to anymore.

Deuce Showboat DST said...

I agree w/ Isis simply because of something my brother said to me once...he said something along the lines of...you shouldnt b tryna tie sum1 down if u dont have anything substantial to offer urself let alone 2 anutha person...

E-Hop said...

I think titles are what we perceive them to be. Thats why we use them. Typically, a girl/boyfriend title means a type of commitment and special connection between the two than that of a person who is just a boo where u may not have any committment. In fact u can have more than one boo without negative connotations. Technically you can have more that one girlfriend or boyfriend but is looked upon differently, usually negatively.

And men are logical beings, women tend to thing with their emotions. Men tend to get right to the solution, while women usually dwell on the problem, just as the issue with the phone calling. Calling a person 10 times does not mean they will pick up on the tenth time. They are not ignoring you, they just arent around their phone at the moment. So the logical thing to do would be to leave a message, or call back after 10 minutes or so. Thats wat the man thinks and sees.

The women doesnt see it like that. It wasnt about the logic, it was about the emotions, and the emotions said i want you to be around for my birthday, where are you, etc. Hence the crying becasue the man who, who saw a totally different situation than the woman, did not call back. In addition to that, mean typically arent phone people too.

Soooooo with that said, there is no answer or result or conclusion to the logical vs emotional situation. There is only compromise.

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