Welcome to Candi Corner !! So if you really know me you'll get the title of this post. Anyway ladies and gentleman I figure I'll put you guys on game to the junk food you may be sleep on and at the same time tap into the life portion of So Snewty. Caution so you know some of the topics with Candi corner are gonna be kinda graphic but hey guys I'm 23 so at this age, for most men and woman it's about establishing a career, love, sex, relationships, sex, and money. The question posed will reflect conversations I've had with friends etc and shit they genuinely wonder. Please feel free to email me your questions as well for future post. Now that I've intro'd this section let me get into it...
My first junk food I chose to put you guys on is chewy lemon heads the assorted pack. I'm sitting here crushing a pack as I type. You can find them at your local hood gas station. So I think that sometimes men and women tend to think of the opposite sex as a pack of assorted lemon heads. They just wanna suck and crush Haha and of course everyone loves variety. That being said heres a question for you guys to answer from one of my blog fans.
Dear Isis,
Why do girls let a nigga hit first and then expect them to wife them....or why do girls fuck the same dude knowing he has a team of hoes? oh and for the fellas you can also answer this Would you wife a chick that let you hit first?
Ladies and gentlemen your thoughts....
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i love this so much -wow- it's like a breath of fresh air= cool
Tammy
That's because people get attached to people who make them reach their sexual zenith. That why I always hit the bottom of the pussy hole. so my erection can cum in dey soul
Females be thirsty for a man and put out to get it...they want him sooooooo bad...thinkin thats how its supposed to go....but thats a hoe mentality....they just dont know better...them hoes need be patient if he want her he will come around...if not keep it movin...
hoes are stupid. bottom line
Bottom line in it all is the word expect.. one should never expect anything or do anything for a specific reaction.. do it because u want to do it and it feels right, make it about you. Thats the key to the question posed...
It's the truth that women think they can change men/ But inside no morals reside, they need to change them/
From my experience must women turn to lust/ thinkin "if I twerk him right, make him cum until he cuss/that
hopefully he's going to see just what he has"/ but in the end the dude is only really in it for the ass/
and women front like they don't like fuckin too/ me and my girl are only mammals, I call my crib a zoo/
from the bed, onto the floor/ she tell me to fuck her like a whore/ but expect me to respect her, and hope for anything more?/
Get real,
She'll never be the mother of my kids/ She needs to peep the reality of what it really is...
I'm in my writing mood...lol! :P
Women had the "HOPE SYNDROME" they hope that they can change a man; they hope that they will be his #1; they hope to not be labeled a hoe; they hope that if the give 200% he will at least give 50%; and they hope that maybe if one of his guys has an interest that it will make the original dude want her more;and they hope in the end not to have a broken heart when fro the start they walked on broken glass.... hope and reality to different ladies. ACT LIKE U KNOW.
MZ.JLYN: http://hmsignature.blogspot.com/
ahh Hope syndrome I see you paid attention to my lecture on hope
haha yea i listened but actually the HOPE SYNDROME is tamikka...she been saying it 4eva, LOL
Its not so much that women are naive to believe that a man will wife them up after they have been smashed. Its what kinda relationship has been established prior to them having sex. If she just meeting a dude a week ago and he smashes then the likelihood of that being a successful relationship will diminish quickly. But if these two people have been dating and sex is introduced into the relationship then that all depends on the type of man he is. I dont have a problem with sex being introduced into the relationship prior to the wifing because you dont wanna buy a car without driving first, BUT doing so too soon will minimize the success of the relationship. I must admit I tried to wife someone who I smashed quickly and it didnt work. Guys go through the same thing. Women are oftentimes the scapegoats of this epidemic for whatever reason.
The best advice is to wait as long as your hormones can take it. Sex can sometimes stunt growth.
very well put twin
Well well...it comes a time in a man's life where he can answer a question like this freely and not be judged..and this is the time...lol
So simply stated..Most females in 2009 try to have the mindset to "think like men" which is retarded. Breezys nowadays expect to let a dude hit and dont attached some way..i laugh at the thought. "Nigga i just want some dick nothing more nothing less"...thats like music to a nigga's ear..they can hit and chuck deuces..little pieces of heaven i'll tell ya..lol...
So my advice to my beautiful female counterpart is talk before getting wiped down.so it wont be any confusion. sex is never just sex real talk..if you can deal with that reality...keep your legs close and open a book...BNic
I would have to say that if Most of us men stop trying to have sex with all of these beautiful girls this question would actually be irrelevant. Seriously come on the women are confused Like B- Nic said they try to have the mindset"think like men" and its just not working. Maybe if we step it up a bit they can breathe easy! Sex is a spiritual thing so its hard to compare it to ignorance.. But hey it is what it is..
Keyword in this statement is "girls". A girl will fuck a man and expect to be wifed. A girl will trip when she figures out that for all practical purposes she's just a warm hole. A girl will stalk and cry and question and villify the man she fucked not because he did anything wrong, but because she's mad at HERSELF for being so fuckin' stupid.
Women know what we want, and we get it. If the girl is a woman this should be a non-issue. Ain't shit for me to look at a dude or a female and say to myself "Self, I wanna smash," get the d or the pussy and be done with it. If you expect sex and get sex there is no reason to be disappointed. In fact, with acceptance you open yourself up for some downright spiffy relations.
Now, as for why females fuck a nigga with a string of hoes...well if they're me then they respect the concept of the "line up". They understand that dude prolly got a #1 who he'll trick off on, get emotional and affectionate with, let meet the family, whatever what have you. And they don't give a damn cuz they not tryina get wifed anyway. They'll also respect that he probably has a #2, who he has been fucking with for as long as or longer than he been fucking with #1. She gets some affection and is normally respected by dude cuz some part of him actually likes her. (though he'd never admit it) Three and below are who he hits in between time. Respect the line up, realize what # you are, and play your position.
P.S.- If you smart you have your own line-up and his position in yours is equal to or lower than your position in his. ;-)
SO there it is. Never say I never gave y'all nothing.
oh, and y'all right. When women try to think like men it doesn't work cuz we can't force ourselves to be that simple. But what we CAN do is be 100% real with ourselves first and formost, and don't take it out on the dude when and IF emotions become a factor in a situation. Cuz I'm sorry, despite what y'all think, some women do have the capacity to keep their emotions in check.
I’m gonna answer both parts of this question.
Pt.1 How many times must the facts be stated?? Women become more emotionally attached when sex is involved. It is only natural for a woman to sleep with a man and want more. Ladies have been taking advice from these Cosmo, ELLE, and other bullsh*t mags telling them that it’s a new day and age. (SN: when you see those ads that say 100 WAYS TO PLEASE YOUR MAN… it’s written by some woman. Only a man can tell you how he is pleased, ya diggg???) True, in a sense; women are able to do more, accomplish more and be more outspoken about their sexual adventures but *hit it and quit* status has yet, nor will it ever in my opinion, be fully attained by the female sex. Some women are dumb enough to think it’s a trap; that once he’s hit, he’ll wanna stay. Ask most SENSIBLE guys and they’ll tell you, “if she let me hit first, she’s probably letting every other nigg do the same. So why should I wife her??” So don’t expect to get the matching last name, or at least matching Value meals cuz he got in them guts… (lol, doesn’t that sound sick).
Pt 2. Some women seem to think that they are Super Sav-a-D*ck, they think that they are gonna be soooooo special that this guys is gonna be dedicating Drake’s Best I Ever Had to ‘em (smh, silly girls) and make him wanna drop that team. Not gonna happen! Then they get all involved, lovin the nigg and get their feelings hurt cuz they HOPED for one thing and got another.
-DyVineSoul
"If you expect sex and get sex there is no reason to be disappointed. In fact, with acceptance you open yourself up for some downright spiffy relations." - L-Bourgies
I couldn't agree more, i think this all boils down to people not being so closed to the concept of casual sex and/or the "one night" deal. Now as far as a functional "formal relationship" being attainable after hittin' in the first inning (that's for you candi, lol). I think it all depends on the parties involved, like someone has said before, "you can't confuse sex with feelings". I personally think that it's very possible to get to know a person on that level all while fucking all on each other, lol, it's just about keeping everything in perspective.
word to Isis. Oh, and we mustn't forget that if y'all DON'T discuss feelings and/or emotions, that ain't your area. Just fuck the man and keep it moving. Play that position!
lmao aye I had to add this after reading Dyvine Soul's post cause she had a valid ass perspective especially when it comes to having expectations for diffs. I can't stress this enough I dont understand why both men and women get pissed off and expect the individual to do a 180 on the person he or she was when they met you..Ugh if they were a stripper when you met em don't think that your ass is gonna change them wanting to be a stripper and dont get mad cause now you done caught feelings and u dont want em to be a stripper no more (get my metaphor). And another thing regarding the second part of the question for some females it aint nuthin to smash a nigga with a line up if she knows her position and he ain't flaunting his line up in her face ( word L Bourgies)..I tell all my female friends never put anything past a dude. When you get locked in the it's all about me to him mentality it makes you lazy and you stop doing the very things that got you in the relationship or situation in the first place. It also makes you more niave in and your feelings become more slanted towards the he'd never slope. I'mma always have a rainy day plan, just in case I find out about the bs he been on. I'm the type that states what I expect and won't tolerate out the gate ..thus its the dudes job to respect that and if he gonna be on other I best not know about it. It's classic Jay " Our time together is our time together.. our time apart is our time apart..so love Jay with your mind baby and not your heart"... and when you start loving a dude with your heart let em know.. hope, expect, think all these words are basically deadringers for the fact that communication is lacking and you not stating what u want out the gate.. if it's sex let that be known and if how u feel changes let it be known.. If men and women learned to vocalize more then this question would be null and void because she wouldn't expect to get wifed, she'd know if i let this nigga hit I'm not gonna get wife cause he tryna smash and dash
Cause some females who don't wanna claim that they are hoes... are hoes themselves... and then catch feelings. You can't make a hoe into a housewife... duh. Didn't that song teach you anything???
And for others, their self-esteem is just so far gone... they figure if they produce an outstanding sex game... or what may appear to be one... dude will be like, "That's the one"... but that ain't gonna happen. With my life experiences, I've learned that sex is only a part of a relationship... it's important, yes... but you've got to conquer many other things to complete the circle. When it all comes down to it, you have to learn to love yourself instead of going out looking for someone to love you.
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